Challenges for Parents healing their Autistic child

There are many challenges faced by parents of Autistic children.

The challenges of autism spectrum disorder (ASD) go beyond the difficulties for your child. To be a parent of a child on the spectrum requires many more skills than would be needed if your children we developing normally. All the additional support you provide to help them with their everyday tasks can tire you out and add stress. You must give them extra time to teach them the skills that others learn naturally. Taking your child out into the public can result in embarrassment and stress from the unexpected and severe social behaviour, as well as the sometimes horrible responses from other people.

Taking up the challenge of helping your child improve beyond what is expected raises many more challenges. These things include the extra work required to implement a healthy lifestyle (but it turns out to make things easier in the long run), and the judgements that come from people that no longer see the obvious signs of autism, but see the lingering under the surface 'naughty behaviours'.

Changing diet and lifestyle can be a big learning curve and requires work

Although the diet and lifestyle required to help regain health are similar to the diet of most people's 50+ years ago, it's not that simple for modern families to adopt that diet. The main barriers to diet change are:

  • Time. Most families are time poor. Some jobs demand time and attention. Often both parents work. Children often have appointments and after-school activities etc.

  • Most fast and available food is processed and of poor quality.

  • Many parents are tired and lack the energy required for the extra food preparation.

Friends and family may not understand and may oppose the path you've chosen

It's hard-wired into many people to trust the 'experts'. On the subject of Autism support, the chosen experts are psychologists, occupational therapists, speech pathologists and paediatricians. Unfortunately, in most cases, the paediatrician isn't heavily involved in the diagnosis and treatment, so for the most part, the tools used are not medical. Additionally, many health care professionals still don't fully appreciate the impact of diet on brain-related disorders.

It's likely that some family and friends will follow the opinions of the professionals leading the diagnosis process and mainstream media. Some will hang onto those beliefs more forcefully than others. Your challenge isn't really to change their views, but rather to fully trust what you are doing. You are the one who knows your child, your family and yourself. Don't let the opinions of others, who don't have the same dedication to helping your child upset you.

There are natural sympathy and understanding for a child with obvious Autism and Aspergers. A child that is leaving the fog of the spectrum may not get the same understanding and can be judged as a naughty child when the old traits re-surface.

Depending on the age of your child, there will be certain skills and developmental patterns that your child will not have developed. Even as the fog lifts and your child catches up in some areas, there will be other areas that remain undeveloped, until they are re-taught. This adds challenges, particularly when your child is judged as 'naughty' when reacting to a situation out of and anxiety.overwhelm

A child that in many ways seems normal can be judged differently than a child that appears obviously on the spectrum. In a classroom, the expectations can be higher, yet when in a state of overwhelm, they may not cope with some situations with calm discipline. This situation is likely to come up for parents that are committed to having their child catch up, and fit into school as a neurotypical child, under the same rules.

The additional support and teaching that you must provide as a parent can be a challenge.

Children that have their health as they progress through their early formative years, learn with relative ease. They observe, try and master. Children on the spectrum would have missed skills, and even new skills take more work to master. As a result, parents of kids on the spectrum will need to provide a lot of additional support to help develop these skills. It is vital to have skilled occupational therapists, speech pathologist and psychologists to assist in this area. They will advise which areas to focus on and provide techniques. Quality advice will save a lot of time.